MAKING ENOUGH ROOM FOR OFFENSES.
Offenses or offense as the case may be will always come. But we must learn to make room for it. This is one big thing we have not learn, we expect that our brethren should understand us and also that because we are all learning eternal life, offenses will never come. But the truth is, a brother can cheat you, a brother can disappoint you. A brother can do the unexpected and that does not mean they are not your brothers, they are! But we need to make room for it. It’s not easy. We may need to listen to them before we make our conclusion. One of the problems we have again, is to feel you have a higher position than someone, or try and feel you are in the best shoe to talk about something than not your brother. We need to be conscious of what we speak to one another. Offenses comes via our words than we could imagine, we will just say a word and say I don’t know that can offend him. We must care for one another in the place of our words. One effective way to talk with one another is to ensure our words edify one another and full of salt. Such that will help the other brethren. In fact the word of God says it helps us to know how to give answers to men and not raise offenses.
Colossians 4:6 Let your speech be ALWAY with grace, SEASONED WITH SALT, THAT YE MAY KNOW HOW YE OUGHT TO ANSWER EVERY MAN.
I know some OFFENSES can be very painful, but often times is because we have not make enough room for it. A fellow once said something to me that really pained my heart that I found it hard to forgive. In fact there are times because some brethren has done some things I then consciously watch my steps with them. This is true and when they come back I could hardly open up that hand of fellowship. This will break our love for one another. We will begin to feel uncomfortable towards one another. Scriptures guides us to do this
James 5:16 CONFESS YOUR FAULTS ONE TO ANOTHER, and pray one for another, THAT YE MAY BE HEALED. The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much.
We need healing amongst ourselves where there is offenses. When we don’t make room for offenses, then when a brother offend us we will find it hard to forgive. But when we make room for it, allowed it ahead we won’t be so offended. We will find grace to forgive. Someone did something, naturally was expecting him to behave as human or either do what is expected of him. Immediately I just made room for it that even if he won’t do well to me, I will make room for it in my heart, and I did, of which at the end he did well. We must learn to make room for offenses. Enough of breaking our fellowship with one another. Enough of speaking evil of one another. That’s the devil’s delight to begin with, to see us break the unity of the spirit with offenses. Unity is a strong weapon against the wicked one, which we are expected to keep in the bond of peace (Ephesians 4:3)
Romans 12:19 Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, BUT RATHER GIVE PLACE UNTO WRATH: for it is written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord.
To me, I see it also as to make room for one another’s fault. Make room ahead for one another offense. Let’s endeavor not to break the unity of the spirit in the bond of peace. Make room for that friend and brother. God keep us all as one. Keep walking…